Big Win Friday-No Donuts on Donut Day


This was a busy week. The first week of the month usually is for me. Not complaining. I’m not bragging. There just seem to be a lot of things of the calendar that we can’t reschedule. Cub Scouts. Men’s Club meetings for church. Soccer.

I need to learn to say no more. Not to the things listed above. I am involved in these things because they are important to me or my children. I think it is important to be involved in those activities.

My big win of the week is getting the podcast we’ve been working on over the last month released. It was our first episode. If you read the post from Wednesday, you will know that was something that finally came to life. And, it came to life a week early. 

Last Saturday, I told the kids on the soccer team if they scored six goals I would do cartwheels across the field. Unfortunately, they did not score six goals. The most cartwheels I have ever completed in my life is one. This was for a dance contest at the race track on Carb Day. It did give me enough points to move into the finals and attempt to dance for $5,000. Spoiler alert, I totally lost. I should really consider this a big win. I don’t know if I could do that many cartwheels across a soccer field.

Another big win is that I ran a couple times this week. This is something I have not been able to do over the last month or so.

The biggest win of the week was not eating any donuts on national donut day. Yay me! 


There Will be Days You Don’t Have Time To Exercise

Yes, this happens. What do you do? Nothing. You move on and put this day in the past.

What do I mean? I mean we are not professional athletes. Working out and exercising is not our job. Sometimes life just works out that way. It happens. It’s best not to let it get to you. At least I don’t.

It was just one of those days. I was up late last night writing a post for the podcast website. I was up early for work this morning. Then, I  had stuff scheduled all afternoon. It’s 11pm and I just walked in the door. Am I exhausted? No. It was a full day.

In a perfectly scheduled day, I would have walked this morning and completed a T25 workout in the evening. No biggy. I will work harder at making sure I stay on schedule tomorrow.

Tomorrow’s plan. Side note, always have a plan. I will sleep in and catch up on sleep. I think rest is important. Head into work and put in my eight. Try and squeeze in a run and a bike ride after work and before soccer practice.

I am looking forward to the end of the soccer season. Hopefully, that will give me some more time during the week.

Today through me off my regular routine. I can adapt to change, but I really don’t like changing my routine.

Was it a productive day? Yes. I feel I accomplished a lot since 6am. Worked. Spent time with the little people and attended two volunteer sessions. I even shot a video with a friend taunting another friend on the internet. It was a good day.


Sorry for the short entry today. I will be working on a piece about my big wins from the week for Friday. I little teaser about an upcoming post I am working on for this site, is a post about how we are all broken souls. No person is perfect, we are all works in progress.  This one may be outside my happy go lucky wheelhouse. I will be the first to admit that I am not perfect. I have a fun and filled life. Yes, I get to do some cool things. But, I am far from perfect.

The state of the podcast

 What a week.

We released our first episode last Friday. Our first episode introduced Jason and myself. We wanted to give the audience a little background about us. Jason talked about what it’s like being an overweight man. He said that when your over 500 pounds you’re invisible. This was something I never knew about. We also learned a little about my background and why I run. 

We were really happy with the format. It worked for what we were doing. We went into this knowing we might talk over one another. Another concern was talking too fast. Because we planned this out, we were able to be aware of those potential problems and watch for them. 

You will learn more about us over the next couple months. We want to cover different topics to educate others and bring these difficult conversations into light. Some of these topics, such as depression and weight loss surgery, are issues people shy away from. I know I have. 

We want to have these conversations with you. We also want your insight. We want to know what you think about them. We also want to hear about your experience. 

We are planning on recording episode two this Friday. This episode is going to be about what we are planning to do with TOO podcast. I have a feeling what we’re doing today is going to be totally different than what we do in episode ten. It’s just a hunch. I think this episode will follow the same format as episode one. This may change in future episodes, but it works for us now. 

We received some great news today. The Obnoxious Optimists is officially on iTunes. We are very excited about this. Here is the link to the podcast.
Give us a listen and subscribe. 

Thank you again for your support. 


Peanut Butter and Jelly Sandwich


My peanut butter and jelly sandwich

I made a peanut butter and jelly sandwich for MaM yesterday. Usually, Michelle is the children’s lunch master. On this day, I was the lunch making master. And a pretty damn good one. 

When you have older children, you become a short order chef for certain meals. Lunch is one of them. Dinner is not. Ask the boss. She will tell you that. You eat what is on the table or not at all. Kids can be picky eaters. This means there are not going to be many different food requests from them. As was the case with my lunch duty. The kids wanted peanut butter and jelly sandwiches. I have not had one of these in a long time. I am more of a roast beef and ham type of guy. As I was making the meals, the PB&J treat reminded me of my youth. 

As I prepared this lunch, getting the bread and jelly from the fridge and the peanut butter from the cupboard. I remember my mom making these sandwiches when I was a child. I’m not sure why, the PB&J sandwich always reminds me of summer. 

I can think back to a time, many years ago, having lunch with my friends at summer day camp at Hayes Park in Chicago. I can smell the grass, the sandwich and my smashed up chips. Let’s face it, the chips always got smashed. But, this is one of the few foods which make me think of being a kid. 

Of course this dream is ruined when MaM deconstructs the sandwich to pick off the thicker parts of the jelly. “Mommy always picks these parts off!” she yelled as The Fox mentioned to me mommy “knows not to put jelly on the peanut butter and jelly sandwich”. 

Parenting picky eater is hard. This is going to be a long summer. 

What foods make you think of your youth?  


Reading This Summer

This summer, we are encouraging the kids to improve their reading and writing. You can never read enough. 
Michelle and I do not plan to be “tiger parents”. We want the kids to improve their reading and spend less time I front of a screen. Sorry, we’re not going e-books this summer. MaM already asked. 
I didn’t read a lot as a child. I should say, I don’t remember reading a lot as a child. I know what you’re thinking, look at this guy, I’m starting my kid on a reading program right now. 
I found reading late in life. Not a bad thing, just not my thing when I was younger. I don’t read as much as I’d like to and I don’t read paper books as much as I like to either. 
Books should be something children have access to. When MaM was born, we signed her up for a literacy program, through the Dolly Parton Foundation, and we received an age appropriate book every month. When they are one to two years old. They received picture books. Unfortunately, the program was hugely successful and they ran out of money. The Fox didn’t get to enter that program. We really loved that program. 
This summer the kids can earn some extra screen time on the weekends. Right now we are testing a screen time match program. Read 20 minutes, you get 20 minutes of screen time. Fight or argue, you lose screen time. 
What are you doing to keep the educational spark alive with your children? 

Note-This is part of a daily writing exercise to improve my writing. My goal is to publish something about what’s going on in my life each day. Thank you for reading.  

Summer Time – Day One 

 First, well second day of summer for our family. Tomorrow will be the first weekday off of summer. This time off seems so long at the Easter break. A couple months off from school. Then you start filling the calendar. 

While driving to church today, MaM asked about having a birthday party on her birth date in early August. She became a little disappointed when we had to tell her she couldn’t have a friends party on her birth date. Why, it’s a weekday and it’s the back to school night. I can’t believe we are already looking at the back to school night. 
This made me think about how soon they are going back to school. Two months. Eight weeks.
When you add in all the normal summer things families do during June and July, vacations, birthday parties, weddings, scout summer camps and a week at the grandparents, the time will go by extremely fast. I sat there driving to church thinking holy cow.
Growing up in Chicago, we got out of school just after the beginning of June and went back in late August/ early September. I know, that was then. But, the summer seemed like an eternity. Baseball or football every single day. Don’t forget swimming. Had to do that everyday as well. And we did everything every single day. Then we got up at 8am the next morning and did it all again until the street lights came on signaling it was time to go home. 
This summer is going to be a fun one for the kids. This is the first year they get to play with kids who live in the neighborhood. In the old neighborhood, there were a lot of grandkids who visited. This is also the first summer they are both riding bikes on their own. 
Another family tradition we are going to start this year is playing four square as much as we can. I think the kids like playing with me because I can’t hold my phone. Another tradition I’m going to start is being more “present” when I’m home with he kids. I’m going to log off more and be there more. 

In an effort to reduce screen time, we are limiting it to the afternoon time. For all other parts of the day, they need to find something else to do. 
What are you summer plans?  
Note-This is part of a daily writing exercise to improve my writing. My goal is to publish something about what’s going on in my life each day. Thank you for reading. 

My Goals for this week ending June 6th


My goals for week ending May 30th:

1. 500 words in my journal each morning.


I was able to write most mornings. But not all week. 

2. Walk 5k each day. 


As of this writing, I am on day 13 of the #5kaDay challenge. There were two days I missed because of the weather or scheduling. I made these days up with a walk in the morning and one after work. I did complete 10k steps each day. 

3. Devote an hour of play with the kids after school for four days. 


I spent more time with the little people this week. We had lots of four square sessions after school. One new tradition we started was that anyone who comes to our house has to play us at four square.  

4. Write a blog post each morning to build the writing practice. I probably won’t publish them for a while, but I want to start this habit. 

Status-not sure. 

On one hand, it was a fail. I did not walk every morning so I didn’t write. However, I was able to write something and post a blog everyday. I was posting on my Kahuna blog. I think I’m going to start writing on my LkM blog. 

5. Be more awesome and sexy than the previous day. 

Status-Nuff said. 
My goals for week ending June 6th. 

1. 500 words in my journal each morning.

Plan-Walk each morning. I like to walk in the morning because it make me feel refreshed. It’s also a great way to start the day. 

2. Walk 5k each day. 

Plan-Two laps around the neighborhood each morning. If this goal is successful this week, I will consider this a habit and remove it from the list. To me, once an activity becomes part of your daily routine, it’s no longer a goal. 

3. Devote an hour of play with the kids after school for four days. 

Plan-To quote Alice Cooper, “school’s out for summer…” Summer is here. That means more bike rides. More walks. More playing at the park. More going to the library. More movie nights. More dad life. 

4. Write a blog post each morning to build the writing practice. 

Plan-Write something on the second lap of my walk. I work on my journal on the first lap. The second lap is for the writing exercise. This is.far from a habit. You’ll prob amy see this on the goal list for quite a while. I’m a visual person. The selfie a day habit has already been mastered. 

5. Ride the bike ten miles four days a week. 

Plan-Ride five laps around the neighborhood on Sunday, Tuesday, Thursday and Saturday. I’ve rode a couple time this past week. I want to ride a lot more. 

6. Be more awesome and sexy than the previous day.